what type of anger is it though? i dont think its IED as im not explosive. maybe impulse?
Based on your description, it sounds like you may not fit the criteria for intermittent explosive disorder (IED), which is characterized by recurrent behavioral outbursts representing a failure to control aggressive impulses. It's positive that you are not explosive in your expressions of anger. Impulse control issues can factor into anger management, but it's crucial to understand that feeling angry is a normal emotion. It could be beneficial to explore your triggers for anger and develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage these feelings effectively. If you find that your anger is affecting your well-being or relationships, seeking the support of a mental health professional can be very beneficial.
what could my triggers be? i had an angry father, not happy with my job, but i have good friends however this anger destroyed my relationship over an outburst over a nothing subject
It's understandable that your experiences, such as having an angry father and feeling unsatisfied with your job, could contribute to feelings of anger. These factors can create a predisposition to being more sensitive to certain triggers. Additionally, unresolved anger from past experiences can sometimes be projected onto current situations, causing overreactions.
In the context of your relationships, it's positive that you have good friends. However, it's crucial to address the impact of anger on your relationships, as you mentioned that it led to the destruction of a previous relationship.
It may be beneficial to consider seeking professional help to identify and address the root causes of your anger and develop effective coping strategies. Therapy can provide valuable insights and tools to manage and express your emotions in healthier ways, ultimately positively impacting your well-being and relationships.
thanks. my previous relationship also was a controlling one where i was the one being controlled, is that a sign too. my partner broke up with me, but we still love each other dearly, however she broke up with me because she was brought up in an angry household and doesnt want to be with someone that has those outbursts. how do i go about healing that?
It's understandable that being in a controlling relationship can have a significant impact on one's emotional well-being. This experience could indeed be a contributing factor to your anger, especially if it resulted in feelings of powerlessness and frustration.
It's positive that despite the breakup, you and your ex-partner still have deep feelings for each other. However, her decision to end the relationship due to concerns about anger outbursts reflects her need for a supportive and nurturing environment, especially considering her upbringing in an angry household.
Healing from these experiences can be a complex journey, but it often begins with self-awareness and a commitment to personal growth. Recognizing the impact of past relationships and experiences on your emotional responses is an important first step. Seeking therapy and counseling can provide a safe space to explore these dynamics, learn healthy communication and relationship skills, and work towards healing and personal development. It could also be beneficial for both you and your ex-partner to engage in couples therapy if there's a mutual desire to reconcile and move forward in a healthier manner.
Taking proactive steps to address your anger and its underlying causes can not only benefit your own well-being but also potentially create a more stable and nurturing environment for any future relationships.